Let us forget for a moment all the evidence that children are better off when raised by a mom and a dad
. Let’s throw out for now the reality that redefining marriage actually abolishes marriage
. Let’s pretend the Bible doesn’t actually clearly state that homosexuality as a sin (1 Corinthians 6:9-10
). Let us ignore all of these defenses for traditional marriage. With all the common arguments removed, can we as Christians still say that marriage can only ever be one man, one woman, for life? Yes we can.
The reason we can is because of what the actual purpose of marriage is. Our problem is we have forgotten what marriage is actually about.
More than 40 years ago when no-fault divorce became acceptable, the definition of marriage changed in America. Today, we believe that marriage is just about the happiness of two adults. Therefore, most of the appeals for homosexual marriage stem from emotion. “How could you prevent two people who love each other from being together?”
Two people can “love” each other all they want, but that doesn’t make a marriage.
Unfortunately, when we as Christians promote the idea that marriage is just for our happiness, we are unintentionally lending false credence to the Homosexual position. Suddenly, the argument becomes about allowing happiness for some, and denying happiness for others. That hardly seems fair or very “Christian”.
The purpose of marriage is to reflect the relationship of Christ and the church, and this is a relationship that can only be reflected by a man and a woman, not two men or two women, or more than two people.
Paul describes this reality in Ephesians 5:
“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it…
This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.”
In a marriage, the husband is meant to represent Christ, and the wife is meant to represent the church. These are two distinct and different roles. The wife is supposed to submit, and the husband is supposed to lead, love, and give himself up for his wife. Two men cannot reflect this picture, nor can two women.
I know domestic violence is a sensitive subject to many people, so I will try and be gentle with my approach to this issue; however, I firmly believe that men do have a
right to beat their wives.
Personally, I believe this because I believe that a man has a basic moral right over his own body. All physical decisions pertaining his body are his to make.
No one has a right to tell a man what to do with his own body.
We can’t tell a man what to do with his fists. The government is not a glove, so the government should stay off of men’s hands.
Sometimes, men just need to be able to beat their wives. Maybe his wife turned out to be much different than he expected when marrying her, and she is ruining his plans and his life with her demands. He should have the right to put her in her place with a good beating. Or, perhaps he decides he isn’t ready for a wife at this point in his life, and so he should be able to beat her to the point where she no longer wants to be around him. Or, maybe a man reluctantly has to face the reality that he doesn’t really love his wife like he used to, and therefore, it would be unloving to the wife to not beat her and drive her away. No wife should have to be in a marriage where she is unwanted.
I’m very confused.
I recently discovered that one of my Christian friends has created a GoFundMe campaign to raise money for “gender reassignment surgery”. My initial reaction was one of sadness, which only increased when I heard her say that she believed the surgery to be her only means of avoiding crippling depression. Statistics show her hope to be misplaced.
Research has shown gender reassignment surgery to be ineffective. The Guardian reported that, “The review of more than 100 international medical studies of post-operative transsexuals by the University of Birmingham‘s aggressive research intelligence facility (Arif) found no robust scientific evidence that gender reassignment surgery is clinically effective.”
The director of this research stated that, “There is a huge uncertainty over whether changing someone’s sex is a good or a bad thing. While no doubt great care is taken to ensure that appropriate patients undergo gender reassignment, there’s still a large number of people who have the surgery but remain traumatised – often to the point of committing suicide.”
Research from the US and Holland suggest also that up to 20% of patients regret changing their sex, and has also found that suicide attempt rates of up to 18% among those who underwent surgery.
As Walt Heyer, a former “trans-female” himself described,
“I lived for 8 years as a so-called trans-female named Laura Jensen. But no matter how feminine I appeared, like all transgenders, I was just a man in a dress. I was unhappy, regretful of having transitioned, and I attempted suicide. Gender surgery is not effective treatment for depression, anxiety, or mental disorders.”
It was Walt Heyer I thought of when I saw my friend express her desperate hope that the surgery would solve her issues. It won’t. In fact, it will only lead her further down the road of depression. Yet the culture tells us otherwise. The culture tells us we have to “follow our heart” and pursue that which we believe will make us happy.
It’s like we believe that we all have Jack Sparrow’s special compass that points to that which we want most, embedded in our chests, and perhaps we do. The only problem is that no one tells us that what we want isn’t necessarily what we need, or what will lead to true happiness and fulfillment.
The more we seek after our own happiness, the more distant it becomes.
I’m guest posting today over at Alovelycalling.com again! This time focusing on the question of self-worth.
What are you worth? If you were put up on an auction block today, what kind of price would you fetch? What dollar amount would equate to your value?
Do you think you are worth a hundred dollars? Or maybe ten thousand? A million? Surely you don’t think you’re worth a billion dollars, right? Come on! What kind of narcissistic psychopath are you?
Well, according to our American society, you are worth about $5 million. Hmm…not too shabby. As a livescience.com article points out, “If a safety code will cost more than $5 million for every person it will save, ‘regulators eyes start to glaze over. They say that that is too expensive.’”
Have you ever thought of yourself as being worth $5 million before? How would you treat an object you owned if was valued at $5 million?
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Gays do have the right to get married in America. There is no discrimination. Everyone is held to the same standards.
What? If this is the case then why all of the hullabaloo about marriage equality? This is because the LGBTQ community have no desire to participate in marriage: they want to destroy it.
Gays actually do have the right to get married in America. Marriage is the union of one man and one woman for life. Sure, homosexuals aren’t able to marry someone of the same sex, but neither am I. No one is. We are all treated equally under the law. Therefore, we are all equal already. We are all free to choose to enter into marriage or not. No one is trying to prevent homosexuals from being together. They can be together if they want to in America, that just isn’t marriage.
What’s the big deal?
Why can’t we just change the definition of marriage to include any two adults who love each other? Well, if you don’t respect or believe in the opinion of God, there really is no reason not to…if you are willing to accept the consequences.
We have already changed the definition of marriage once, and it has led to widespread destruction in our culture. Marriage went from being between one man and one woman for life, to one man and one woman for as long as they feel like it.
A little over 40 years ago, “no fault divorce” became recognized. Now anyone can divorce for any reason, or no reason, when previously one could only sue for divorce if there was abuse, abandonment, or adultery. The result? Divorce skyrocketed, fathers abandoned their children, crime spiked, and society has been severely harmed.
Rather than turning back to what marriage is supposed to be, we are pressing on in the wrong direction, which will ultimately lead to the abolition of marriage.
I have encountered a number of Christians who hold the belief that there are no significant gender differences in Christ. They therefore believe that men and women have the same function, and that we should not distinguish between the genders when it comes to the church or daily life.
Their evidence comes from Galatians 3:28, “There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
Taken by itself, this verse certainly looks pretty definitive. It says right there that there is neither male nor female, all are one in Christ Jesus! The problem is we cannot just read individual verses. This verse is not meant to be read by itself, but in context with the rest of the chapter, and the letter of Galatians as a whole.
Context of Galatians
There is a problem Paul is addressing in the Galatian church, namely, the issue of works righteousness vs. righteousness through faith. In the opening of Galatians Paul states that he is “amazed” that they have so quickly deserted the gospel that he taught them for a different and false “gospel.” In the first two chapters, Paul explains the gospel he taught them came straight from God, and that they should not listen to any other “gospel”. Next, he begins explaining just why the false teaching is false.
Context of Galatians chapter 3
Moving into chapter 3, Paul explains that it is Faith which saves, not following the Law (works).
“But before faith came, we were kept in custody under the law, being shut up to the faith which was later to be revealed. Therefore the Law has become our tutor to lead us to Christ, so that we may be justified by faith. But now that faith has come, we are no longer under a tutor. For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus. For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ.” – Galatians 3:23-27
It is within this context that Paul states, “There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
Why would Paul randomly state that gender distinctions have been done away with when he is talking about Faith over works? When we take the context into account, we see Paul is not saying men and women are identical in their Earthly functions, but that salvation—through faith—is equally available to both genders.
Within the same verse, we see Paul is saying the same thing in regard to Jews, Gentiles, slave and free. Everyone has equal value in Christ, which was a ground-breaking assertion in those days. When we look at the non-canonical “Gospel of Thomas,” we see that others had different ideas.
“Simon Peter said to them, ‘Make Mary leave us, for females don’t deserve life.’
Jesus said, “Look, I will guide her to make her male, so that she too may become a living spirit resembling you males. For every female who makes herself male will enter the kingdom of Heaven.” – Saying 114
According to this false gospel, women don’t have equal access to the Kingdom of God because they are female. Paul refutes this idea in Galatians by stating that we are all one in Christ.
Paul Contradicts Himself?
If Paul really was saying that there is no distinction between men and women as far as their Earthly functions are concerned, then he must be contradict himself later on when he sates in 1 Timothy 2:12 that, “But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.”
Additionally, he must also be contradicting himself when he says that slaves should obey their masters in Colossians 3:22.
Of course, it is more likely that Paul is not contradicting himself, but that what he says later on fits in accordance with Galatians, especially considering the context. Paul isn’t telling us to live as if we are androgynous, but that we all stand on equal ground in Christ.
In our Post-Modern world where truth is relative, a curious phenomenon has developed: people don’t like you if you are confident about your beliefs. It’s very strange. These Post-Modernists are confident that you are wrong for being confident in your “false” beliefs, just as they are confident that there is absolutely no such thing as absolute truth.
It is cool to be a skeptic today. Doubt equals wisdom.
If you express confidence in your beliefs, then you are dogmatic, judgmental, legalistic, and a slew of other derogative terms. Of course, without God, this makes sense.
If you don’t believe in God…you really can’t trust that you know anything. If we all just evolved by accident in the primordial soup of Earth’s ancient oceans, if we were just cooked up by the flaming prehistoric meteorites slamming into Earth bringing with them the “ingredients for life,” if we were just dead material shocked to life, ala Frankenstein, by lighting or whatever it is atheistic scientists are now claiming allowed life to form from non-life…then we can’t really trust anything.
2014 has been a great year of blogging, and was also probably the most difficult year I’ve ever had–in more ways than one. However, overall, all of the difficulty and changes have been very good.I wrote most posts in the past year than in any previous year, so to recap 2014, here are my top 10 most popular posts:
(click on the images to visit the posts)
10. No Hugging; Now What?
A light-hearted follow-up to my series on why I don’t hug girls, seeking to find a healthy alternative.
9. Emotional Purity –Part 1
A post introducing my series on emotional purity, and why I have personally come to support the concept.
8. I Am A Sexist
My awful confession that I think men and women are different, and created for different purposes.My friends at Freejinger had fun with this one.
7. I Got a C For Defending the Bible
A real life and personal example of the bias of colleges against Christians and truth. I have heard many stories about schools showing bias against Christians, but had never experienced it myself until my Intro to the New Testament class which I took at Ohio State.Thankfully, this C was not enough to tank my grade, and I still finished with an A. It wasn’t as bad as the movie “God’s Not Dead.”
6. This Pastor Hates His Children
Probably the most difficult article I’ve ever written, this was inspired, again, by witnessing an article being shared around the internet by Christians praising this pastor for encouraging and embracing homosexuality. So many Christians are turning their back on what the Bible says and are embracing sin and calling it love.
I don’t like writing on this subject, or criticizing pastors, or directly targeting individuals. I’m sure he is a very nice person, but the views he was sharing are wrong and harmful, and they are being accepted more and more by the world and Christians alike that I felt I had to say something.
More controversial than I expected it to be, this post was meant to make the point that you never have to wonder if you married the wrong person.
This satire came about after I was told my conviction that I should save physical affection for marriage would lead to a disappointed future wife. I was told that my future wife would probably appreciate someone with more romantic experience instead. Hmm…I might be marrying the wrong woman if this is the case.
5. Reasons Why I Don’t Go Ballroom Dancing
Much like my series on hugging
, this post came about because I wanted to give a defense for why I personally don’t want to go ballroom dancing. After getting invited to too many dances that I didn’t want to attend, and not being able to fully articulate why I didn’t want to participate, I put my thoughts together and this article was the result.
4. Why I No Longer Talk Privately To Girls Online
Related to Emily’s guest post
, this article tells a more personal story, sharing my own negative experiences of male/female private communication online. This is a completely new social venue which didn’t exist when my parents were growing up. No one really knows about the dangers, and I hope more will come to see the risk involved.
Few seem willing to acknowledge this reality, and more damage continues to be done. What is probably even more tragic, is I know many people who have come to believe that the harm can’t be avoided, and should simply be embraced.
3. Your Crying Baby Is Sending People To Hell
Inspired by a comment my mom received on her blog by a person claiming crying babies in church are actually sending people to hell. I sincerely hope she was just trolling and not being serious; nevertheless, I have witnessed a lot of discrimination against children in the church service. I find it shocking and sad at just how many Christians, even large homeschooling families, who believe children should be separate from the adults, and placed in Sunday school. It’s just not scriptural.
I also seemed to have done too good a job with this satire, as many people thought I was being serious, and didn’t realize it was a joke. I again apologize for any emotional trauma this post caused.
2. The Struggle For Emotional Purity
This was a guest post written by a friend which really exploded. So many guys don’t really understand how emotionally driven girls are (I have made a lot of mistakes myself in this area). I found Emily’s thoughts to be both accurate and practical. Thank you again Emily for being brave enough to share about this important topic.
It is just too bad that so few really understand the concepts Emily shared.
1. Don’t Teach Girls To Be Modest; That Sexualizes Them
This post was inspired by an article that was being passed around the internet by some Christian acquaintances. The article was claiming that encouraging girls to be modest was actually sexualizing them. Um, what? I found this idea so backwards I had to write something.
This is also now my 4th most popular post all-time. I guess modesty is still a hot topic.
As it is for most kids, Christmas time was my favorite time of the year growing up. Everything changes. There are lights, Christmas songs, making gingerbread houses, fun Christmas movies, and best of all, lots of new toys!
I was always the first one up Christmas morning, and always dazzled by the sight of our family-room filled with beautifully-wrapped presents, all filled with new and exciting things just waiting to be discovered. Yes, Christmas was the best time of the year.
I never thought much about why we had Christmas, or what all of the traditions and practices meant. Everyone celebrated Christmas…or so I thought.
Once while visiting a great Christian family, I was horrified to discover that they did not celebrate Christmas! WHAT? WHY? How sad their children don’t get presents Christmas morning! My parents explained later that they believe we should treat every day the same, and consider every day as holy, and seek to celebrate God every moment.
Okay, that makes sense, I thought, but why not treat every day the same…but also get presents?
As I grew older, Christmas slowly began to lose its luster for me. More and more things began to bother me about the holiday, such as the hustle and bustle, the stress the season seemed to bring, and the over-commercialization.
Since then, I have also learned more sinister things about the origins of Christmas. Indeed, there are even some Christians who believe we should not participate at all in the celebration due to its pagan origins.
Feminism’s crusade against Chivalry and all things gender specific has been overwhelmingly successful. At one point in time, for better or worse, there were clear gender distinctions. The husband was the provider, and the wife managed the home. The husband was the protector, and the wife was the nurturer. If there was a potential murderer/stalker person parked outside your house, the husband would investigate, not the wife.
After a day of moving and unpacking, the sun had set. No street lights left the road in blackness. The moving truck was parked in front of our driveway, and I sat in front of it in our car. As I was waiting for the truck to move so I could pull our car into our drive, the neighbors began to come down their driveway in their car. Their drive met our street between where I was parked and the moving truck. Before the neighbors could reach the road, they stopped.
The light inside their vehicle turned on, and I saw a man and a woman talking, I’m guessing they were husband and wife. After a few seconds, the wife got out and began to walk toward me. As she approached, I lowered my window.
“Hello!” I said.
“Are you with the people moving in?” she asked. I replied in the affirmative. “Okay, just making sure,” she said, then walked back to their car and they drove away. So apparently they were worried I was some kind of stalker or thief staking out their house or something, and yet the wife went to investigate instead of the husband?
This is very small example, but I think this situation represents the cultural confusion we have today surrounding how men are supposed to treat women. The Feminist ideology steeping our culture has imposed upon women the lie that they do not have choices to make; that they can “have it all” and not have to face the consequences. Not too long ago, a man never would have had his wife go investigate the mysterious car parked in front of their house. He would have investigated himself, partly because men are typically better equipped than women to handle potentially violent situations. More importantly, because it is the husband’s job to love and protect his wife, not because of anything she has or hasn’t done, or can or cannot do, but out of respect for the mere fact that she is a woman, and his wife.