Marriage Can Only Ever Be, One Man, One Woman, For Life

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Let us forget for a moment all the evidence that children are better off when raised by a mom and a dad. Let’s throw out for now the reality that redefining marriage actually abolishes marriage. Let’s pretend the Bible doesn’t actually clearly state that homosexuality as a sin (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). Let us ignore all of these defenses for traditional marriage. With all the common arguments removed, can we as Christians still say that marriage can only ever be one man, one woman, for life? Yes we can.
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The reason we can is because of what the actual purpose of marriage is. Our problem is we have forgotten what marriage is actually about.
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More than 40 years ago when no-fault divorce became acceptable, the definition of marriage changed in America. Today, we believe that marriage is just about the happiness of two adults. Therefore, most of the appeals for homosexual marriage stem from emotion. “How could you prevent two people who love each other from being together?”

Two people can “love” each other all they want, but that doesn’t make a marriage.

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Unfortunately, when we as Christians promote the idea that marriage is just for our happiness, we are unintentionally lending false credence to the Homosexual position. Suddenly, the argument becomes about allowing happiness for some, and denying happiness for others. That hardly seems fair or very “Christian”.
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The purpose of marriage is to reflect the relationship of Christ and the church, and this is a relationship that can only be reflected by a man and a woman, not two men or two women, or more than two people.
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Paul describes this reality in Ephesians 5:
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“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it…
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This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.”
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In a marriage, the husband is meant to represent Christ, and the wife is meant to represent the church. These are two distinct and different roles. The wife is supposed to submit, and the husband is supposed to lead, love, and give himself up for his wife. Two men cannot reflect this picture, nor can two women.

Transpocrisy: Are Gender Stereotypes Legit, Or Not?

 

I’m very confused.
Transpocrisy

I recently discovered that one of my Christian friends has created a GoFundMe campaign to raise money for “gender reassignment surgery”. My initial reaction was one of sadness, which only increased when I heard her say that she believed the surgery to be her only means of avoiding crippling depression. Statistics show her hope to be misplaced.

Research has shown gender reassignment surgery to be ineffective. The Guardian reported that, “The review of more than 100 international medical studies of post-operative transsexuals by the University of Birmingham‘s aggressive research intelligence facility (Arif) found no robust scientific evidence that gender reassignment surgery is clinically effective.”

The director of this research stated that, “There is a huge uncertainty over whether changing someone’s sex is a good or a bad thing. While no doubt great care is taken to ensure that appropriate patients undergo gender reassignment, there’s still a large number of people who have the surgery but remain traumatised – often to the point of committing suicide.”

Research from the US and Holland suggest also that up to 20% of patients regret changing their sex, and has also found that suicide attempt rates of up to 18% among those who underwent surgery.

As Walt Heyer, a former “trans-female” himself described,

“I lived for 8 years as a so-called trans-female named Laura Jensen. But no matter how feminine I appeared, like all transgenders, I was just a man in a dress. I was unhappy, regretful of having transitioned, and I attempted suicide. Gender surgery is not effective treatment for depression, anxiety, or mental disorders.”

It was Walt Heyer I thought of when I saw my friend express her desperate hope that the surgery would solve her issues. It won’t. In fact, it will only lead her further down the road of depression. Yet the culture tells us otherwise. The culture tells us we have to “follow our heart” and pursue that which we believe will make us happy.

It’s like we believe that we all have Jack Sparrow’s special compass that points to that which we want most, embedded in our chests, and perhaps we do. The only problem is that no one tells us that what we want isn’t necessarily what we need, or what will lead to true happiness and fulfillment.

The more we seek after our own happiness, the more distant it becomes.

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Gays Do Have A Right To Get Married

Gays do have the right to get married in America. There is no discrimination. Everyone is held to the same standards.
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What? If this is the case then why all of the hullabaloo about marriage equality? This is because the LGBTQ community have no desire to participate in marriage: they want to destroy it.
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Gays actually do have the right to get married in America. Marriage is the union of one man and one woman for life. Sure, homosexuals aren’t able to marry someone of the same sex, but neither am I. No one is. We are all treated equally under the law. Therefore, we are all equal already. We are all free to choose to enter into marriage or not. No one is trying to prevent homosexuals from being together. They can be together if they want to in America, that just isn’t marriage.
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What’s the big deal?

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Why can’t we just change the definition of marriage to include any two adults who love each other? Well, if you don’t respect or believe in the opinion of God, there really is no reason not to…if you are willing to accept the consequences.
We have already changed the definition of marriage once, and it has led to widespread destruction in our culture. Marriage went from being between one man and one woman for life, to one man and one woman for as long as they feel like it.
 
A little over 40 years ago, “no fault divorce” became recognized. Now anyone can divorce for any reason, or no reason, when previously one could only sue for divorce if there was abuse, abandonment, or adultery. The result? Divorce skyrocketed, fathers abandoned their children, crime spiked, and society has been severely harmed.
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Rather than turning back to what marriage is supposed to be, we are pressing on in the wrong direction, which will ultimately lead to the abolition of marriage.

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This Pastor Hates His Children

The Bible tells us in Proverbs 22:15 that, “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.”
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What a harsh-sounding verse, and yet, it’s true. Children are not born perfect. We are all born sinful (Psalm 51:5, Romans 3:23). Children need to be taught, by their parents, and especially fathers (Ephesians 6:4) what is right and wrong. As we all know, children are very impressionable, and can easily be swayed one way or another by their parents’ teachings.
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Therefore, it is the responsibility of parents to raise godly children, and to teach them how to become like Christ. This is what is best for children. To do otherwise would be very unloving.
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Recently, I have seen several people post this article on Facebook about a pastor who would support a lifestyle of homosexuality for his Children. What is even more disturbing is that these are Christians who are supporting this man, calling his article “beautiful”. It is despicable, and this pastor hates his children.
True, this pastor does say some good things in his article. He says that he will love his children if they are gay,
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“I don’t mean some token, distant, tolerant love that stays at a safe arm’s length. It will be an extravagant, open-hearted, unapologetic, lavish, embarrassing-them-in-the-school cafeteria, kind of love.”

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Yes, parents should unconditionally love their children. No matter what their children do, parents should still love their children. This is the love that God has for us. But this isn’t limited to affection.
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The problem is this pastor thinks love means you have to support and agree with whatever decision a child makes. That is not love. Love is wanting and willing what is best for someone, and a homosexual lifestyle is very far from healthy.
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