Men Should Be Allowed To Beat Their Wives

I know domestic violence is a sensitive subject to many people, so I will try and be gentle with my approach to this issue; however, I firmly believe that men do have a wife beatingright to beat their wives.
Personally, I believe this because I believe that a man has a basic moral right over his own body. All physical decisions pertaining his body are his to make.

No one has a right to tell a man what to do with his own body.

We can’t tell a man what to do with his fists. The government is not a glove, so the government should stay off of men’s hands.
Sometimes, men just need to be able to beat their wives. Maybe his wife turned out to be much different than he expected when marrying her, and she is ruining his plans and his life with her demands. He should have the right to put her in her place with a good beating. Or, perhaps he decides he isn’t ready for a wife at this point in his life, and so he should be able to beat her to the point where she no longer wants to be around him. Or, maybe a man reluctantly has to face the reality that he doesn’t really love his wife like he used to, and therefore, it would be unloving to the wife to not beat her and drive her away. No wife should have to be in a marriage where she is unwanted.

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The Struggle For Emotional Purity: Guest Post – Purity Part 3

Part 1 – Emotional Purity: What Are Your Thoughts?
Part 2 – What is Emotional Purity?When emotional purity is discussed, I find it interesting that the focus is always on ourselves. We consider whether or not a given situation would be beneficial or detrimental to us. I think this is a very poor way of looking at the topic of emotional purity.

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I hardly hear anyone talk about looking out for the best interests of others. I believe that we should be seeking to help one another, and as men, we should especially seek what is best for women.
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Speaking to young men, rather than merely considering whether or not a given situation or interaction might harm us, we should instead consider how it might negatively impact a young woman. For example, perhaps a hug or communicating deeply in private would hold no emotional sway over you, but it might for the young woman.
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Instead of trying to communicate myself how, in general, women are different from men when it comes to the area of emotional vulnerability, I decided to seek help from those who would know better than I what it’s like to be a woman. A friend of mine, Emily Long, was gracious enough to write me a letter detailing the struggle for emotional purity from a young woman’s perspective, and it is copied below. I hope you find it as enlightening as I did:
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Dear Reagan,

You have asked for my opinion on the issue of emotional purity. I would like to do just that by illustrating it a little.
          First, let me introduce you to our characters. The main individual is a girl just 20 years old. She has not been very emotionally pure up to this point, but has not exactly had a solid emotional relationship yet. Just a crush here and there. Perfectly normal, wouldn’t you say? We shall call her Krystal. Because I like that name.
To continue…
          Joseph is our unassuming male counterpart, who is the same age as Krystal. Although he has never had girl friends or crushes, he can’t deny that he has noticed the female population, as they seem to be everywhere. Joseph also has no sisters, and therefore does not exactly know the interworkings of a female mind. To be honest, neither do females, but we won’t get into that.
          Krystal has a good relationship with Christ (as long as He doesn’t ruin her fun, and she can still be popular). She has a heart for discipling young girls, she loves children, helping moms, serves the elderly, singing for the glory of the Lord, waiting (physically at least), for her prince charming, and keeping constructively busy being a stay-at-home-daughter. On the outside, she is doing everything right. But inside Krystal’s heart are longings. A desire to be loved, to feel beautiful, cared for, protected, safe. Her father is away a lot working to provide for her family, and Krystal just feels disconnected from him and doesn’t exactly know how to share her heart with him. She hasn’t grasped the concept that in Christ alone can all these longings be fulfilled.
          Now that you understand Krystal a little, let us introduce Joseph into her life. Here is young Joseph, noticing a pretty girl who is quite talented, popular with all the people who know her, and really seems to have a heart for God. Interested, he spends a little time with her. He is not in love, has not stated anything, and is possibly not even entertaining thoughts of that sort. She has noticed him as well, and believes that perhaps he is also interested. Their families spend more time together, giving Joseph and Krystal ample opportunities to talk, form opinions, and seek each other’s attention. In Krystal’s mind, thing are getting serious, especially since “the families are involved”.Joseph has never said anything, but he genuinely seems to be seeking her out. She finds him funny, kind, diligent, caring, protective; every girl’s dream boat, right? He also happens to be handsome, which of course, doesn’t exactly matter, but it…matters. Another female thing.
          Moving on…

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The Dis-Integrated Life – A Guest Post

A guest post by a friend of mine. I really like this article because I believe it is very relevant to the general state of the modern-day church.
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In our culture today, even among many self-identified Christians, obedience to Christ is equated with oppression.  The word “holiness” is generally only uttered in sounding an alarm against the “holier than thou.”  The mention of “righteousness” is immediately reinterpreted to mean the same thing as “self-righteous. “
Meanwhile, the “brokeness” of our human condition is elevated, celebrated, and idolized.  The Good News from Christ only comes into play after we die.  Emotions, not truth, rule the day.  The kingdom of God is not at hand.  God is not near.
For these Christians, Christ is the merciful forgiver, but not the ever-present, powerful Redeemer, Reconciler, and Restorer.   For them, the promise of happiness found in the gratification of individual desire, though elusive, is the essential doctrine of their orthodoxy.  They go to church.  They consider themselves spiritual people.  They “believe” in God and yet believe that God could not have really meant what is said in the Bible.  They may be committed to their church and regular in their times of private and sincere prayers to God.  Yet, in every other area of their life, you would not know that there was any difference between them and anyone of any other faith or of no faith.
Private “quiet times” of prayer and public or corporate forms of worship do not constitute devotion to Christ; but prayer and traditionally recognized forms of worship, whether private or public, are particular types or instances of devotion to Christ. Devotion to Christ involves a whole, entire life given, or devoted, to the living God.
The person who has devoted themselves to Christ is the one who no longer  lives according to their own will, or the norms and spirit of the world, but to the sole will of God.  They consider God in everything.  They serve God in everything.  They make all the particular details of their ordinary life elements of worship, by doing everything in the Name of their Lord and Savior, and under such directions – can we say “commands” ? – as are designed for His glory.

We seem ready to admit that God alone is to be the One who determines the appropriateness of our prayers; that we are to pray according to the manner in which He taught His disciples to pray; that we are only to pray in such a manner, for such things, and such ends, as are suitable to His purposes, will, and glory.
Now, if anyone can understand why they ought to adhere to the instructions of Christ with regard to prayer, they will find the same, equally strong reason to be as strictly obedient in all the other parts of their life. For the very same reason why we should make God the arbiter of our prayers and pray only according to His will is the reason why we should look only to Him as the rule and measure of all the other actions of our life. For the entirety of our life; all application of our talents, our time, our money, our words and deeds that are not strictly according to the will of God as He Himself has indicated are vain, wasteful, temporary, and ultimately just as much utter failures as prayers that are not according to the will of God.
For the very same  reason that our prayers should be according to the will of God – why they should have nothing in them that is not wise, and holy, and godly; there is no reason that our entire lives should not be of the same nature, full of the same wisdom, holiness, and godly attitudes, so that we may live for God in the same spirit that we pray unto Him. Furthermore, if we do not possess lives that are governed by godly reason, devoting the actions of our lives to God, walking before Him in wisdom and holiness with our minds “set on things above,” doing everything in His Name, and for His glory, then our prayers will be utterly absurd; they will be like prayers to become gods ourselves.
Just as it is wise to pray for the Spirit of God, so is it wise for us to yield to the rule of the Spirit in all our actions.  Just as it is our obligation to rely entirely on God in our prayers, so we are obliged to live entirely for God in every area of our lives.  Yet, we cannot live for God unless we live for Him in all of the ordinary details of our everyday lives.  This disconnect; this dichotomy between the sacred and the secular results in totally absurd ways of living.  The result is people who are committed to attending to certain times and places of worship and devotion, but when the service is over, they are no different than those who never go to church.  Their ordinary life; how they spend their time and money, what they really care about, what they fear, what gives them pleasure, how they conduct “business”  is just like the rest of the world.  And so you have a significant portion of our society who thinks the church is a joke; full of hypocrites and worthy of ridicule and derision.
 
 Consider Jack…
Jack is very conscientious about not missing Church services on Sunday morning; all his youth group friends assume Jack is sick if he is not at Church.  Jack also regularly attends Church youth group events and goes on short term mission trips once each year.  But if you were to ask Jack why the rest of his time is governed by the whims of self-gratification?  Why he “hangs out” with a group of peers dominated by the fads and fashions of pop-culture?  Why his thinking is regularly occupied with finding ways to strike a new pose that will elicit gushing praise from his Facebook followers? Why he is always up for any movie or concert, no matter how coarse, crude, or absurd?  If you were to ask him why there is no television program or video game too trivial to please him?  Why his life is oriented around weekend parties and “hanging out?”  Why the content of his conversation is focused on the drama and gossip of his peer group?  Why he is subservient to the demands required to retain his good standing among his “friends” who neither want nor deserve such an honor?  Why he cares more for the well-being of his “friends” than for his own immediate family?  Why, despite knowing that he is to love everyone as himself, does he allow himself to adopt the foolish hatreds and resentments of his peer group against outsiders?   If you ask him why he never puts his words, his time, and what money he has under the rules of discipleship to Christ?  Jack has no more to say for himself than the most worldly person.  For the course of thought that runs all throughout Scripture stands as much against such a life, as against immorality and drunkenness: he that carries on such a wasteful existence lives no more according to the way of Christ, than the narcissistic hedonist.
– William Ruhl

God’s Gift To Women: A Book Review

“We men have been taught that, no matter how hard we try, we will never figure women out. It’s a lie!”

This book was so good I read it in two days. I would have read it in one day had not other activities been planned. I really like the way Eric Ludy writes his books and communicates in general. He combines a stirring, inspirational message, with solid Biblical understanding, and ties it all together with humorous examples from his own life.

What I liked about this book specifically, was it got to the very heart of the matter. This wasn’t a book of cheap tricks to manipulate women into liking you. Like classic Eric Ludy, he esteemed the hard and narrow path, and left the sugar coating off! However, as he is also so good at, Ludy paints a beautiful picture of the reward in store for those who do the hard things to obtain it.

Consistent with the Doug Wilson book I recently read on courtship (Her Hand In Marriage), the key to being “God’s gift to women” is a Covenant Life with Christ. Or as Wilson says, the qualities one needs for a godly marriage are the same qualities one needs for Christian life. If we really want to live the richest life possible and be a blessing to others, we must make love of God center in our lives, and everything that entails. Some may think this sounds oppressive, but it’s really not. The Self-centered life is what is actually oppressive, and Ludy very clearly points out this fact. Very inspiring!

What I also liked so much about the book was how much I could relate. There really is a “Brotherhood” as Ludy describes it, a “code” young men are subconsciously taught and expected to uphold in how we act, and relate to women which is far from good or right. I certainly have experienced the lies this “Brotherhood” encourages, and I definitely see and have seen how men are deceived by it’s twisted teaching. It really is from Satan as Ludy says. Sadly, very few men have broken free of this bondage, and our culture promotes it. “We men have adopted the concept that ‘not asking for directions’ is the essence of manliness, when it is actually the essence of stupidity.”

I really enjoyed how Ludy dug into what true manhood is, and how the culture has twisted our ideas of true masculinity. A true man isn’t just a big, dumb, dirty, inconsiderate brute. “Well you may be a tough guy, but that doesn’t make you a warrior. A guy can shrug off pain and deny his need for medical attention, though his leg has been all but amputated, and still be a true wimp. A man may be willing to fight, persevere, and endure pain; but a true wimp knows only how to fight, persevere, and endure pain for one thing: his self.” There is a much better way to live, “What would our manhood be like if we pursued Christ the way we have been trained to pursue the opposite sex? What would our manhood be like if we spent the same amount of time chasing down Truth as we do tinkering with our computers, cars, athletic skills, musical talents, or hunting rifles?”

Interestingly, Ludy also touches on how the church has failed to uphold it’s mission to teach and encourage great masculinity. “The Church was built by God in part to introduce us to great man-ness. But instead of being the “Factory for Great Manhood” it once was, the modern-day church has been twisted and warped into a machine that transforms eager and willing men into spineless spiritual wimps.” In large part, I think this is because as Ludy says, “[Some churches will say,] ‘We will never make you uncomfortable or make you feel like you have to change.’ But truth demands we change–that we bend our lives and experience around its reality. God offers no partial adherence…Oftentimes, the greatest threats to the Covenant [life in Christ] are in our own Christian backyard.” 

“Today’s young men don’t need another sermon. We don’t need another word of advice. We don’t need another book telling us what we, as men, should be. We need the Life of our King. And we need His life to consume our own.” 

Again, if you’e looking for a book about, “Ten Weird Ways To Get Women To Fall In Love With You,” this is not the book for you. This book really is a lot more about what true, Biblical manhood is. This is because true manhood, the way God intended it, IS itself a gift to women. (And all the Feminists in the room cry “sexism.”) The key to becoming God’s gift to women is the same key to what it takes to be a great man–becoming like Christ, and not settling for all the low standards our culture has set for men. “God did love me just as I was. But He loved me too much to leave me as I was.”

This book is an easy 5-star. Every man should read it, regardless of whether or not he intends to marry.

Her Hand In Marriage – A Book Review

This was a fantastic book! Therefore, prepare ye self for a long review/summary!

I’ve heard a lot of people talk about “Biblical courtship” but they have often failed to really give any Biblical support other than the basic Biblical principles of love and serving others, which obviously go contrary to the modern dating model with is typically about self-gratification and manipulation–even if it’s subconscious. 

“Her Hand In Marriage” is great from the start, opening with a fantastic introduction which I can easily relate to. Wilson lays down some ground rules about how he is going to approach the topic, and makes some great points. 


1. He points out how there are success stories hidden among all of the bad of modern recreational dating. As Wilson says, “Nothing said in the following pages should be taken as directed against godly Christians who came together within the dating system.” Sometimes people can take offense when you say you think courtship is more Biblical than dating, and they think you are saying they automatically were sinning by dating. Criticism of dating is not meant to criticize individuals, but the system as a whole. “People survive plane crashes too, some of them without a scratch, and we should all be happy about it. But this acknowledgement does not disqualify us from opposing the general habit of crashing airplanes.” – pg.10 

2. Wilson also points out how “generalizations are legitimate if they honestly describe an overall pattern. Generalizations are consequently NOT refuted through particular and individual counter examples.” So many people think that just because “I did it, and I turned out fine” that everything is just peachy. Deviants from the pattern don’t change the fact that there is still a pattern. 

3. Sadly, “success stories” are not as abundant as they are assumed to be. “The modern dating system does not train young people to form a relationship…at the very least, this system is as much prep for divorce as it is marriage….” 

Still lingering in the introduction, I loved what Wilson said on the topic of feminism and how, “The beauty of Biblical courtship is that it never leaves women unprotected.” – pg.13. This is just the opposite in dating, where there are relatively few risks for the young man, and many risks for the young woman. Wilson also touches on how men and women are created differently, and have different roles in courtship, as with life: men initiate, women respond. He also touches on the subject of “submission” in courtship and marriage, and how “headship in marriage does NOT mean that women submit to men; it means ONE woman submits to ONE man. Her submission to her husband protects her from having to submit to other men. Prior to marriage, her submission to her father protects her from having to submit to other men…the so-called ‘independent’ woman is not under any kind of protection. She is truly on her own, but with the result being that she is buffeted about by all sorts of men.”

Moving into chapter 1:

The book begins to focus on the authority of parents (especially the father of the young woman) in a courtship. The relationship between the courting pair should not be founded on romance. As Wilson says, “Romance is believed to be ‘the thing’ which ties a marriage together, and it is further thought that young people understand the dynamics of romance far better than their elders…What establishes the foundation for any godly marriage is covenantal faithfulness to the God who gives us marriage.” My translation is that marriage should be based on committed LOVE, not romance. Our culture gets the two mixed up. Consequently, founding a marriage on this covenant leads to strong emotional and romantic attachments. The world gets it backwards, which is one reason why there is so much divorce. Those marriages are “self” focused, rather than “other” focused.

The rest of the chapter focused on providing Biblical support for the authority a father has over his daughter, and his responsibility to protect and seek out his daughter’s best interests. Additionally, Wilson explains how in courtship, “the courting activity is publicly connected to the life of the family, most likely the family of the young daughter. With recreational dating, the privacy of the couple is paramount.” Not only does the privacy of dating create an unrealistic environment, but it almost unfailingly leads to sin. 

Chapter 2: 

This chapter focused on preparing sons for courtship, and how a man is meant to “grow up, leave his parents, and cleave to his wife. The wife, having been given in marriage, has transferred her allegiance from her father to her husband.” 

Before a son can leave to take a wife, he must be instructed in certain key areas.

First, he must understand what the Bible teaches about marriage itself. “A son should know what constitutes the formation of a marriage, the obligations of a marriage, the boundaries of marriage, etc….”

Second, he must be taught what godly married life is like.

Third, he must be masculine. 


Wilson gives an interesting example on this third point: “Courtship reveals how necessary this masculinity is. Many modern young men approach a girl, and thy are quite serious as far as their intentions go, but they are afraid of interfering with her life. ‘You know, she is going to graduate soon, but she wants to go to school at Notre Dame, and I don’t really want to go to Notre Dame, and showing interest in her would really disrupt all her plans.’ But the whole point of courtship is to disrupt a young lady’s plans. A godly young woman is not going to stand around waiting for marriage. Rather, she will be preparing herself for marriage. This means she will be heading in some particular direction, and not just marking time. A young man should not be afraid of disrupting, because marriage is by its very nature a disruption of her previous way of life. But there are many guys who have an ‘excuse me for existing’ kind of attitude–which is not very masculine–when it comes to a potentially serious relationship with a young woman…A son must not be afraid to take the initiative in such matters.” 

I really like this idea, and it fits with what I’ve experienced. I have come across a lot of godly young ladies who are interested in marrying young, but there aren’t any marriageable young men around. Rather than wasting their time waiting, these young women put themselves to work for the kingdom. Yet if one is called to marriage, that takes a higher importance than any career or other ministry. How sad it would be if a young woman who wants to get married is never approached because all the young men are afraid to “disrupt” her plans. 

This doesn’t mean, however, that he should be inconsiderate of her plans or her calling, but it does speak to the roles of men and women in marriage and courtship.

“Suppose John wants to marry Susan. But he knows that after she graduates, she is going to try to get a job in Seattle where her grandparents live. He goes to her father and says that he would like to ask her to marry him, but she has other plans. Now if John is really interested in Susan, and if he is masculine, he should cheerfully want to interfere with her plans. If she is not interested in marriage, she will not mind if he asks her father; there will be no imposition. Her father will just say no. If she is interested in him, it will not be an imposition either. Women are not supposed to sit on the couch and wait for somebody to marry them. They should always seek to do something productive with their lives in the meantime. Consequently, men who are seeking a helper are going to have to seek this helpmate from among women who are going in other directions at the time. A man who understands masculinity and marriage should know generally what he wants to do, and he should be seeking a woman who agrees to come with him. It is not the other way around. He is not coming into her life in order to help her with her vocational calling. Of course if a husband loves his wife as Christ loves the church, he is going to help her in many ways…The Bible teaches that the woman was made for man, not man for the woman (1 Cor. 11:9).” 

Chapter 3:

This chapter addressed preparing daughters for courtship. The importance of creating the habit of submission and trust with her father is stressed, and then Wilson moves into the topic of modesty, which I found very good. He points out how it’s not wrong or a sin to look beautiful and to wear jewelry or make-up, but it becomes immodest when women attempt to make a display of themselves. “Women should seek to be beautiful by a certain means, through the hidden person of the heart…A man’s daughters should be taught to cultivate an inner beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. Peace should pervade a young woman’s demeanor. There should be an absence of anxiety, so that the inner calm will work its way out. And such calm daughters will be beautiful on the outside.”


However, today, modesty is not valued, and fathers are allowing their daughters to date and interact with men and boys unprotected. As Wilson quotes C.S. Lewis, “a society in which conjugal infidelity is tolerated must always be, in the long run, a society adverse to women.” 

Wilson also goes into the difference between morality and prudishness, which was also very interesting. 

Mr. Wilson brings up the topic of “godly responses”, as well, and how Christian girls should be equipped to respond to suitors well. I liked how Wilson says, “Christian girls need to learn a godly rudeness. In a corrupt culture such as ours, this ability is increasingly necessarily.” I definitely agree. Sometimes, rudeness is definitely called for. 

Chapter 4: The Culmination of Courtship

This chapter focused on “what standard should a future spouse be chosen?” I thought Mr. Wilson explained the drive of courtship well when he said, “Our situation would not be very much improved if it were to go from a system based upon a young girl ‘liking’ a guy–from the system of ‘recreational dating’ to a pattern of courtship based upon parental prejudice and whim. Such decisions are very important, and cannot be left to anyone’s current whims.” 

I found this quote very interesting, since many I know consider courtship to mean parents wield power tyrannically and with absolute authority. Of course, a father can still veto a courtship if there are some legitimate concerns with his daughter’s suitor, or their compatibility of beliefs. However, the decision of who you are going to spend the rest of your life with is very important and serious. It will impact generations to come. Therefore, there should be a lot of things and a lot of people involved in the process, not just the whims of the courting pair or the parents. Ideally, all parties involved would work together to arrive at what is best and God-honoring. No one person’s feelings should settle the matter. 

Wilson also points out how the gravity of the situation and the future implications also should not factor in. “We cannot make our decision based on what we predict might happen twenty years from now. Rather, we must proceed on what God has revealed in His Word. God does know the future so we must obey Him.”

Mr. Wilson goes on to explain how we must not be unequally yoked in marriage. Both the man and woman must be Christians, but not only that, but their beliefs about God must be compatible. A father, for example, should not let his daughter be courted by a man who disputes the sovereignty of God. “When a young couple has a child who dies in the first year, how will the young husband comfort his wife? How can he, if he has a theology which says that God wanted to prevent this tragedy but couldn’t?” 


Like-mindedness is key, not only in beliefs, but in actions. Beliefs mean nothing if one does not live by them. If one does not act on their beliefs, they are not really beliefs at all (A very Dallas Willard idea). A man must be obedient to God for a father to permit his daughter to court him. 

A man must also have financial stability. It was fascinating to learn more about how courtship was done in Biblical times, and how a man was expected to pay the “bride-price” before he could court. This demonstrates that a man can put his money where is mouth is, and he is serious, while also providing financial protection for a women in the event of a divorce. Many in our day, however, don’t like this idea. 

“The romantic propaganda of our day typically portrays all such concerns as mean-spirited and materialistic–everyone knows ‘all you need is love.'”

Finally, Wilson also stresses physical attractiveness as being a Biblical principle, which I found interesting, as I’ve not heard many people stress this idea. However, he provided some very good arguments which make sense and stand with the Bible. Obviously, physical appearance should take its place in line behind more important attributes, because what if something happens and suddenly your spouse isn’t so attractive anymore? Accidents can happen. Now you’re stuck with someone who you married mostly on the basis of physical appearance, and now they don’t even have that anymore. All the same, attractiveness has importance. 

In the 5th and final chapter, Wilson digs into the details of courtship. 

It was fascinating to read about how Wilson described how a father should interact with a suitor, and it also made a lot of sense. He makes it very clear that if a daughter is not interested in a young man, then in virtually all circumstances, the father should get back to the suitor and simply say no. However, if the daughter IS interested in the young man, then the young man should be given permission to spend time with the family. Wilson continues, “If that goes well, he may begin to spend time alone with the daughter under the watchful oversight of the father. The young man is being invited to spend time with the family. Younger siblings get a good example of courtship lived out in front of them…” 

Wilson also clarifies that these are not hard fast rules, but depend on the circumstances. “The father may give the young man permission to take his daughter to dinner, or to go out on what some people would call ‘a date.’ The point is not ‘how many times to the house before there is a proposal,’ but rather whether or not the father would be foolish to give permission to date, and other times such permission is wise.” 

I found this part very interesting, and made me pause. I was wondering if this would be the one thing I disagreed with. But upon further reflection, I realized I agreed. Wilson is clear it depends on the circumstances, and I have to say I agree. I’m sure there would be some certain circumstances where that kind of interaction would be appropriate and helpful. No doubt, there would have to be a serious trust and commitment level, however. 

If the family is impressed and the young man continues to show interest, then more one-on-one time can be spent together under the father’s oversight. 

“If it becomes obvious during the courtship that the young man is not suitable, then it is the father’s duty to explain to him that he is not free to continue to come around in the same way.” – pg.78

Wilson then briefly touches on what the wedding should be like, that is, focusing on the convenantal aspect of it. A wedding is a ceremony where two people are making vows before the Lord, which are not to be made lightly, “the church therefore has an interest in /witnessing/ these vows, and insisting they be kept.” 

Mr. Wilson concludes the book by providing some counter arguments to typical concerns with courtship, and then ends with an allegorical short story painting a beautiful picture of the relationship between a father, his daughter, a suitor, and God. 

I can’t think of anything I really disagreed with in this book, which is rare for me. While a lot of these concepts I’ve heard before, Wilson’s perspective was new to me, and he also gave a lot of interesting practical insight and advice. I definitely would recommend this book for anyone considering going about courtship in a god-honoring manner.