Hello dear readers!
I had the honor of being asked by the Long family to write a guest post for their blog, The Long Way To Go, this week on the subject of how to guard your heart. Below is a portion of the article, but make sure to go to their site to read the rest!
“Guard your heart!”
I’m sure you have heard this phrase before, and you might also have found that it is easier said than done. How exactly are you supposed to guard your heart?
Disclaimer: I am writing this article under the assumption that you desire emotional purity, and to save not only your body, but also your heart for your future spouse. If you don’t believe in emotional purity, this article might not make much sense to you. However, if you do desire to save yourself, then it is my desire that this article help you to obtain that goal.
The concept of “guarding your heart” comes from Proverbs 4:23-27, which states, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Keep your mouth free of perversity; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.”
This passage is telling us to pay close attention to the inner core of who we are as people. We are to carefully consider our thoughts, desires, and emotions—our heart—as our heart reflects who we truly are (Proverbs 27:19).
In other words, this verse is telling us that we should be sure to intentionally guide our thoughts, speech, and actions. We should not just carelessly “go with the flow”, or do what seems natural or second nature, but take every thought captive—in all situations.
Think of your heart as a king and/or queen of a kingdom. Your kingdom. Your kingdom is your life, and everything that you are able to control. As the rulers of this kingdom go, so does the kingdom. A monarch who is constantly battered and taken captive by the enemy will be weak, and the kingdom will suffer. If we don’t guard our hearts, our lives and our pursuit of Christ will be harmed. Therefore, we want to protect our king (our heart) with a strong castle and defensive system. We don’t want our king being taken captive by an evil foreign empire.
How do we guard our hearts specifically in the area of romantic interest? Well, first, here is how not to.