Marriage Can Only Ever Be, One Man, One Woman, For Life

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Let us forget for a moment all the evidence that children are better off when raised by a mom and a dad. Let’s throw out for now the reality that redefining marriage actually abolishes marriage. Let’s pretend the Bible doesn’t actually clearly state that homosexuality as a sin (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). Let us ignore all of these defenses for traditional marriage. With all the common arguments removed, can we as Christians still say that marriage can only ever be one man, one woman, for life? Yes we can.
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The reason we can is because of what the actual purpose of marriage is. Our problem is we have forgotten what marriage is actually about.
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More than 40 years ago when no-fault divorce became acceptable, the definition of marriage changed in America. Today, we believe that marriage is just about the happiness of two adults. Therefore, most of the appeals for homosexual marriage stem from emotion. “How could you prevent two people who love each other from being together?”

Two people can “love” each other all they want, but that doesn’t make a marriage.

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Unfortunately, when we as Christians promote the idea that marriage is just for our happiness, we are unintentionally lending false credence to the Homosexual position. Suddenly, the argument becomes about allowing happiness for some, and denying happiness for others. That hardly seems fair or very “Christian”.
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The purpose of marriage is to reflect the relationship of Christ and the church, and this is a relationship that can only be reflected by a man and a woman, not two men or two women, or more than two people.
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Paul describes this reality in Ephesians 5:
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“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it…
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This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.”
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In a marriage, the husband is meant to represent Christ, and the wife is meant to represent the church. These are two distinct and different roles. The wife is supposed to submit, and the husband is supposed to lead, love, and give himself up for his wife. Two men cannot reflect this picture, nor can two women.
 
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This arrangement reflects the relationship that Christ has with us, the Church. He is our head, He gave himself up for us, and we are meant to submit to him. This has been the picture since the beginning of time, although Egalitarianism has muddied this picture, erroneously arguing that men and women are interchangeable.
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However, going back to the Garden of Eden before the fall, we see that the relationship of Adam and Eve mirrored the same reality described in Ephesians 5. Eve was created for Adam, to be his helper. Adam was the head of Eve.
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This arrangement did not come about after the fall, but existed before, which is why Adam bares the responsibility for the fall (Romans 5:12). What led to sin was that this relationship between Adam and Eve was corrupted. Eve led the way, was deceived, and fell into sin. Adam, rather than giving himself up for her, and taking the punishment for her sin like Jesus eventually did for the world, he abdicated his responsibility, and ate of the fruit as well.
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For me, this conjures up the image of Isildur standing over the chasm in Mount Doom. All he has to do is cast the ring in to prevent evil from enduring, but he didn’t. He too becomes corrupted.
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Men and women were created for two different purposes, and together reflect the image of Christ and the church, which is a relationship that is meant to endure forever. Marriage isn’t meant to reflect two Christs or two churches. This is why marriage was only ever meant to be defined as one man, one woman, for life.
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We should not expect non-Christians to understand or acknowledge this reality. As a result, they may enter into a same-sex union, or a union of more than two individuals. They may “marry” for “love” or to win tickets to a Rugby game. They may intend to do so for a few months or several years. Okay, but by definition, none of these things can be called marriages. Our government may categorize them as such, but in reality, they are not. They’re just partnerships or contracts that depend on a various array of stipulations and variables.
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Christians, however, should definitely understand this, and therefore, all Christians should be against homosexual marriage. But many don’t understand this, and do support “gay marriage”, even though it is not “gay” (meaning happy) or marriage. This is because we long ago, as the church, forgot what the real purpose of marriage was. Instead of marriage being about God, and sacrificing my desires for the good of my spouse, it came to be seen as a means toward obtaining pleasure, and my spouse just became the object to mine the pleasure from. But when the mine ran dry, or we found it did not satisfy like we thought it could, we become disillusioned.
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Now our culture is saturated with jokes about how bad marriage is. Getting married has become a punch line. Getting married is what kills the romance, what leads to fighting, discord, and the end of freedom and happiness. Derogatory jokes abound from wives tearing down husbands, and husbands tearing down wives.
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And yet, if marriage is so despised by our culture, whey then does marriage suddenly get painted in a good light when homosexuals want to get married?

Hmm…strange…
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We expected Earthly marriage to provide something it could not, and inevitably, that led to disappointment. So we created no fault divorce because the problem wasn’t us, it was our spouses, and we needed to be able to divorce any time we wanted so we could find someone “better” who would then make us happy. That didn’t work? Okay, well let’s “liberate” sex so that it can be experienced outside of marriage. That will make us happy, right? Wrong. Well, maybe if we could have same-sex experiences, then maybe then we will be happy yeah? We already know this to not be true.
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Each distorted step we have taken is a result of abandoning the true definition of marriage long ago. We continue to go down this dark road into even more destructive territory, and we show no signs of stopping, all because we forgot what marriage is really about – Christ and the church. Marriage can only ever be one man, one woman, for life.

 

 

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