“So this is life for you.
Whether you’re rolling in money and surrounded by models, or sitting on a street corner freezing your homeless butt off, or somewhere nicely between the two.
Whether you’re gay, lesbian, straight, or bisexual.
Whether you’re black, white, Asian, Indian, etc.
Whether you’re female, male, both, neither, or between the two.
Whether you’re a genius, average, or an idiot.
Whether you’re a democrat, a republican, anarchist, or libertarian.
We’re all human, though. We all basically look the same inside…
…What matters isn’t your bank account, your sexuality, your race, sex, intelligence, or political party. What matters is what you make of your life for yourself. The people you affect in the duration of your life time, the hearts you touch, and the memories you make.”
First of all, I think this blogger is combining dissimilar things and calling them similar. You cannot control your race, or gender, whereas, your political beliefs and sexuality are choices.
Second, I think her idea of “what matters” is severely off.
“What matters is what you make of your life for yourself.” Perhaps I’m misunderstanding her, but after reading the rest of the article, I don’t think I am. I would contend that “what matters” is not what you make of your life for yourself, but what you do for others and how we love Christ.
This blogger goes on to include a list of several things she wants to do in life.
“For me, personally, I think I have an idea of what I want to accomplish. I made a list. Those in boldare completed, italicsare almost done, and plain text are things I have not accomplished. Yet. There are a lot of things still missing from my list, but I can’t list everything I want to do.
- Advance in school past my years
- Fall in love
- Graduate high school
- Go to the college of my choice to pursue the major of my dreams
- Graduate college
- Rent an apartment with my boyfriend
- Get a corgi
- Find life job
- Get married
- Be happy
- Kids maybe
- Expect the unexpected.
- Go skydiving
- Go to Cherry Springs, PA
So I have a lot yet to do, and I plan to do it. Nothing can stop me. No one can stop me.”
While I think she has the right attitude, she’s applying it in the wrong way. Life isn’t about getting our way…it’s about making what we want the same as what God’s wants. We are not more powerful than God, and it’s unwise to believe that we are going to do what wewant and no one can stop us. What about God? I think He can change things in a hurry. If we set our minds on earthly things, and on what we want…we’re setting ourselves up for anger, bitterness, and regret. Let’s not build our own towers of Babel only to have them swept aside.
Instead of having absolute confidence in our own endeavors and what we personally want to accomplish, we should have complete confidence in the goodness of God, and that obeying Him will result in our good. In His right hand there are pleasures forever (Psalm 16:11).
The blog post really starts to deteriorate toward the end:
“Shed all of those thoughts about who society thinks you are and find yourself. Take that time to figure out what’s really important to you. What do you love? What do you want from this world? There is literally nothing to tie you down (except laws. Try to follow those). What’s stopping you? Fear from the phrase ‘what if’? Are you going to let two little words and a mess of imagined scenarios hold you back from being truly happy?
If you’re gay, be gay and be proud. If you want to be a democrat, be a democrat. If you want to be rich, go out there and work for it and achieve that.
If you want to be happy, then by all means, go for it.”
We don’t need to find ourselves, we’ve already been found. Christ bought us with a price—His death, and now we are to live for Him. “For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God.” – Colossians 3:3
There are other laws, spiritual laws, which are even more concrete than the laws made by man. Breaking these laws will result in damage–damage to others, and to ourselves. Doing whatever we want doesn’t make us happy. I’ll say it again. Doing whatever we want doesn’t make us happy. What makes us happy is living the way God designed us, which is for goodness. Living for God, and wanting what God wants makes us happy. Even if we don’t at first want the things that God wants, we can learn to desire them by practicing them.
And again, the blogger is focusing on the self. What is important to me, what do I desire, what do I want from the world? As I wrote in earlier blog posts, God wants us to become the kind of people where we can do whatever we want to do—to become like Christ. The irony is that what Jesus wanted to do was not for His direct benefit, but the benefit of others. We shouldn’t be focusing on what we want life to give us, but what we can do to help others live the best possible life—a life devoted to Christ, not our selfish desires.